Am I Gay?

Many young people who experience homosexual attractions report feeling “different” for as long as they can remember. Often, this makes them think they must have been born that way. However there is no evidence that anyone is born homosexual.

Lesbian and gay people do feel different as kids, but this is likely the cause of homosexual attractions, rather than the effect. For example, a girl who does not have strong relationships with her mother and her female peers may feel alienated from, or “different” than, other girls. She may feel this way as young as four or five years old.

If you are attracted to members of your own gender, it’s important for you to know that you don’t have to decide whether you are gay or straight right now.

Often, sexual attractions to members of one’s own gender are a normal part of development, and as you grow you may eventually become attracted to the opposite sex. This is especially true for pre-teen boys and girls, for whom it is normal to spend more time with one’s own gender, while accusing the opposite gender of having “cooties.”

It’s also important for you to know that even if you have had a sexual experience with someone of your own gender, this does not mean that you are gay. You may naturally move beyond your homosexual attractions in time, or you may have to work to change them (there are many people who specialize in helping those who do not wish to be homosexual).

Last Updated 4-4-06

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